5.15.2009
This is how you do it...
June is TWO!
In all seriousness, though, we are so thankful to have June around! She is loving and cuddly, and loves to just "be with us". Two years of training, and she's finally learned how to stay on her bed and not bark when company comes over. She sheds less, pulls on the leash less, and chews less. But, when she hit dog puberty (remember, she's really 14 in dog years...), she realized she LOVES to chase bunnies while simultaneously ignoring our calls to get her back.
The fun never ends!
5.05.2009
the future mrs. conners
going to vegas with a group of girls is a great, but throw some matching outfits and one glowing bride in the mix, and you've got yourself a whole different experience! kym was adored the whole weekend, not only by her gal pals, but also by MOST EVERYONE that walked by!!! :-) but don't worry, we kept the whole weekend under control--well, minus those few moments during an unmentionable vegas show.
the festivities included an early morning stop at bagels and brew, the pool at the mirage, lunch in the shady pool restaurant, great gifts for the bride and bridesmaids, dinner at an amazing & classy burger joint, chip & someone... (okay, okay, chippenDALE...crap.), dancing to DJ AM at "rain", painful feet, more pooltime, more food, and more dancing. tryst and XS at the wynn and encore filled our saturday evening, but i'm sad to report i had to bail early that evening with the pregnant lady, as i'm starting to feel my age... tired & wanting to hit the sack by midnight, especially when thoughts of my feet falling off kept crossing my mind. here are some photos of the beautiful bride-to-be and her gals!








stay tuned for the upcoming wedding--6/6/09! so close, kym, so close!
4.30.2009
Climbing lessons
I stumbled across this video today from a recent TED conference. It’s a talk given by Matthew Childs, an avid rock climber, guide, and marketing professional. He lays out nine life lessons he learned from rock climbing. As a climber myself I first watched the video to see what climbing taught him about climbing. Then I watched it again; this time watching to see what climbing taught him about life. It’s nothing brilliant or new; it’s actually quite simple, but it really does say a lot about climbing and about life in general.
My climbing career has gone through high’s (ranking first in the U.S. and Canada for my age group; even if it was only for one week) and low’s (two separate occasions of injuring opposite ankles to the point the Dr.’s have recommended, “Next time, break it. It’ll heal faster.”), but through it all the sport has taught me a lot about myself, life situations, and relationships.
Climbing, to me, is about solving problems. In fact, that’s what we call bouldering routes; problems. Everything you need to solve the problem is right in front of you, but it doesn’t mean that you are ready to solve it. Along with the tools that the climb provides, there are certain aspects of yourself that need to be ready in order to utilize the tools effectively.
As a newlywed, I have a whole new set of problems in front of me; to keep on with the climbing analogy. Watching Matthew’s presentation, it reminded me just how fitting the methods I use to get better at climbing are also applicable to how I get better at my marriage. Here is how I look at Matt's nine lessons in the way they apply to me:
Lesson # 1 – Don’t let go
Childs says, “You think about giving up way before your body does.” When Gigi and I were dating there were plenty of times it would have been easier to “let go” of the relationship rather than endure through whatever problem was. I have learned from climbing that the exhilaration of solving a problem I thought was bigger than I was is always much better than saying I tried, but just had to let it go.
Lesson # 2 – Hesitation is bad
I might re-phrase this to what he says later in the point, “…momentum is good.” In relationships, just like in climbing, momentum is good. Keep striving to do things that push the relationship forward. Get passionate about showing the other person how much you love them and push yourself to constantly get better at it.
Lesson # 3 – Have a plan
Before I actually attempt to solve a climbing problem, I always step back and look at the whole problem first. I look at what kind of holds are there, where my feet need to be, what parts may give me more trouble than others, and where I may land if I fall. I try to bring this aspect into my marriage as well. Whether it is a problem that Gigi and I have together, or individually, I try to take a step back and look at the problem itself; what caused it, what is the best way to deal with it now, and what do I/we need to change to prevent it from happening again.
Lesson # 4 – The move is the end
When I have taught people how to climb, I notice that everyone wants to solve the whole problem. Of course the do, that’s the idea! The problem is that when you are first starting out, it is more important to learn how to use the tools than it is to solve the problem. Once you have a firm grasp of each of the tools, the solution to the problem becomes a lot easier. Don’t get caught up in solving the problem the first time. Look at each step toward solving the problem as a smaller problem solved on the way to solving the larger problem.
Lesson # 5 – Know how to rest
A couple of years back one of my standard gym workouts included a 200 foot long traverse. There were some parts of the traverse that were a lot tougher than others, and I would need a rest to keep on going. I would find a small corner to lean into or a huge hold to pause on to give my hands and feet a small rest, to allow myself to keep going. With my relationship with Gigi, I have found that rest to be important as well. There have been times when everything going on in our lives has been overwhelming or stressful. In those times, we have found that a weekend or a couple of evenings of “our time” helps us rest, regroup, and allows us to keep going.
Lesson # 6 – Fear sucks
I remember the problem vividly. The Elevator Shaft is a problem in Bishop, CA I attempted three years ago. About 20 feet high, long dynamic moves, and a large boulder directly underneath where I would fall. I tried that problem about 10-15 times, but the fear of falling on that boulder, well, sucked. I didn’t end up solving it that day. A year later I went back, pushed through that fear and solved the problem. In my previous attempts, I was too scared of falling I didn’t realize how big my next hold was. I didn’t have much to worry about. That happens a lot in relationships. Don’t let fear stop you from making the next move.
Lesson #7 – Opposites are good
Climbing, and bouldering especially, uses a lot of opposing forces to maintain balance. Different opinions, interests, habits, aren’t always a bad thing. Gigi and I certainly have our differences, but we are learning how to use those differences to become better at solving problems that arise. We are using each others strengths to stay balanced in our relationship.
Lesson # 8 – Strength does not equal success
When I was learning about climbing I thought “the stronger you are, the better you are at climbing.” What I failed to realize is that strength is only part of what makes you a good climber. Just being strong does not mean you will get to the top. There are many aspects to climbing, as there are in relationships, in addition to strength that need to be constantly worked on before success can be had. Getting to the top based on strength alone, is not going to prepare you for reaching the top of the next problem that comes your way.
Lesson # 9 – Know when to let go
About 3 years ago I was working on a problem in the gym. The problem was harder than I normally climb, but I was doing really well on it. I was about three moves from finishing it when I heard something in my right ring finger go “SNAP!” I can actually remember seeing my finger bend just a little bit farther than I had seen it go before. It didn’t really hurt so I thought I might just ignore it and finish. Then I decided that “SNAP!” isn’t usually a good sound so I should get down and check it out. Ended up I partially tore a tendon in my finger. Had I decided to push through it, it was likely I would have torn the tendon completely and needed surgery. I have learned that there are times in a relationship when you need to let go also. Compromise is tough, but it’s better than surgery.
So in a very large analogical nutshell, climbing is a lot like relationships. I am positive that I have volumes more to learn about relationships and climbing, but I also know that I have someone climbing with me who is just as willing to learn how to get to the top as I am. Together we will make each other stronger, use our strengths to our advantage, help the other get over fears, maintain motivation, figure out the best plan forward, get through each step of the way, and learn how to let go of things that may create bigger problems.
Okay, this post REALLY makes me want to get outside and go climbing soon. Who’s with me?!
4.27.2009
TOP TEN things i l.o.v.e. about being married to josh johnson
#9) he loves quicken. -- josh thinks tracking finances is the coolest thing since sega genesis. this leaves me with much more free time than i've ever had before. he "suggested over and over" that we switch to online automatic bill pay...brilliant! i just get emails now that say my bills are being paid. i love efficiency!
#8) Two words: Netflix & LOST -- two wonderful new worlds i've been pulled into! netflix used to take the fun out of going to get a movie from blockbuster, but now it's found itself as one of my favorite things to receive in the mail! and LOST...amazing show! i am enthralled by the characters and the unknown. who'd've-thunk i'd ever like a sci-fi show??? i'm tellin ya, marriage is an EYE OPENER!
#7) june. -- oh my june bug! josh did an amazing job at raising june. she is SO SWEET and SUCH A GOOD DOG! and... josh let her enjoy her chewing years in his home with his stuff. so, fast forward 2 puppy years later, and i really got lucky! she is playful and fun, gentle and loving, and is past her chewing stage! in all seriousness--this dog has our hearts and i love loving her WITH josh. its a true treat.
#6) we hold hands. -- i worried that the dating feeling would quickly go away after we got married. i once told josh, "babe, when we get married, are you gonna stop holding my hand?" he said, "never". and i believe him.
#5) he's a human heater. -- for some reason, my body has decided to stop making it's own heat as of 5 years ago. i truly attribute it to traumatizing experience of living in spain during the winter in college, where i was cold and shivering for 60 days straight. anyway, josh is ALWAYS about 15 degrees hotter than i am. cuddling with my husband is right up there on my list of "ways to stay warm in this cold cold world", next to my 82 degree "auto" setting in my car, and my "high" setting on the heating blanket.
#4) "and this is my wife, Angelica..." -- LOVE THAT! we've only gotten a few pieces of mail sent to Mr. & Mrs. Johnson, but i'm really enjoying it...
#3) can you say "slumber party"!?!?!?! -- sleepovers with my best friend seven nights a week? who can complain!? no, really, WHO?! and although josh isn't the most lively in the mornings, he always wakes up with a big fat smile!
#2) he makes me communicate better. -- josh and his oh-so-charming literal analyses of my speech really cause me to think twice about what i'm trying to say. it's annoying at first, no doubt, (especially when i'm frustrated and trying to explain something and when he questions my mixture and abbreviations of words or makes me take the long-cut when i desperately want to take the short-cut to get to my point), but i really do love that he cares enough about what i'm saying to really try to understand me, even if it means taking me SO EXTREMELY literally that i have to really be careful how and what i'm saying. he makes me a better communicator with him and with other people i come across.
AND THE #1 THING I LOVE ABOUT BEING MARRIED TO JOSH JOHNSON... (drumroll, please!!)
#1) he tries hard everyday. -- i KNOW what you're thinking--"you guys have only been married for two months...every day is only 60 days..." BUT if you know Josh Johnson like i know Josh Johnson, you'll know that one of his BEST qualities (which also happens to be my favorite) is his hardworking and loyal efforts put forth in EVERYTHING he does. lucky for me, i'm one of those things... (hey, now...........dirty folks...)
4.16.2009
"sleepwalk with me" mike birbiglia
josh, angelo, and jim
glad i got to join the boys last night. we had such a blast!
after coming home late from LA, we woke up this morning to find our puppy sleeping on her bed like a princess, pillow and all! this dog has SO MUCH PERSONALITY.
4.15.2009
the latest discovery...
i have always been a fan of ikea's fake flowers, but on saturday josh and i walked in to a trader joe's to grab some pre-made dishes (again, not typically the domestic type) and i thought to myself, "wow, wouldn't some fresh cut tulips be cute in the house?" OH MY GOSH. WHAT?! WHO AM I!? THIS IS DISGUSTING and REALLY STRANGE!! turns out my lack of an appreciation for flowers did a 180 after researching flowers for my own wedding, and later selecting a ReAlLy RaD centerpiece with orchids and succulents... (see what i mean!? this is nuts!!!) so, as i find myself "running a home" (haha, like running a business, but not), i find thoughts floating around my head about what neat kitchen gadgets i could purchase next, what the best vaccuum on the market is right now, where i can find the best deals on chicken, and what color flowers would just "pop" against the green and brown walls! oh, dear...
THE "OLD GIGI'S" FLOWERS - FAKING IT TILL WE'RE MAKING IT...
this little guy...FAKE. up for replacement soon--he sits awkwardly in the corner...
this trusty fella is fresh from ikea, 2 years ago...
THE "NEW GIGI'S" FLOWERS - A REAL LIFEFORM (drinking water, needing sun and care) IN A VASE!
one of the many BEAUTIFUL centerpieces from my wedding. this sucker is twice as big as it was on the wedding day! can you believe it hasn't died on me?! my pride and joy! (visit www.thevinesleaf.com to see Aly Loge's shop and amazing floral design!)
this weekend's impromptu purchase...
sitting in a glass vase i "just had sitting around". haha, blowin my own mind.
if you know anything about me, you'll know i'm undergoing some SERIOUS changes when this sort of thing happens. stick with me to see what's next!! this could be FUN!
3.31.2009
...all settled in...home sweet home...
...and unfortunately generated tons of trash!! yikes...
...but look what you helped contribute to... (the "after" pic)
...we are so happy about our new space together...
...and love just hanging out at home...
...we're so thankful to everyone for our great gifts...
...even if it means we find ourselves cooking SIGNIFICANTLY more than we used to...
...at least we're VERY well equipped...
3.30.2009
f.a.m.i.l.y.
the other day, it clicked. i'm starting my own one of these... for now, it's Josh, Gigi, and June. one day we may add in a couple of rugrats to keep it interesting, but the bottom line is that i get to "do family" all over again...this time from a different perspective! these past few weeks have consisted of all the stuff we HAVE to do (work, school, cook, clean, etc.) and some of the stuff we WANT to do (movies, walking, shopping, playing with friends, etc.). but i just have to say, my FAVORITE TIMES so far have been when Josh, June and I hit the park or the trails for some good family time. we talk, walk, picnic, joke around, play ball or frisbee, and enjoy the outdoors. its AWESOME. and SO DARN SIMPLE.
i am so blessed.
3.21.2009
photos from the honeymooooon :-)
josh and i left for our honeymoon at 5:30am the morning after our wedding. talk about E.A.R.L.Y.--we fell asleep on our ride TO the airport, and both josh and i can sleep on planes, so we weren't all that worried. we arrived in cancun to find beautiful weather, a fabulous hotel, and spicy, but GREAT, habanero salsa.
everyday was about the same--sleep in, roll down to the pool, have a few drinks, eat at the pool bar, take a nap, wake up and get ready, go to dinner at a nice restaurant, walk around town, and get ready to do it all again. IT WAS PERFECT-- and i'd give anything to be back doing it all again!!
we did take a day to leave the hotel strip and play in the beautiful underground rivers of XCaret (pronounced "eesh-cah-det"). we snorkeled with tuna, watched the dolphins played, and actually swam with sharks!! josh really got a kick of how nervous i was to do that. i almost turned around and said "no", but i faced my fears and learned to love them :-)
most of all, i just wanted to post some photos from the fantastic week...so... here they are!
3.17.2009
Our Wedding Soundtrack
From the first week we met, Gigi and I have bonded over music. As our relationship grew we knew that when it came time to get married, music would play a big part of that day. As that day came closer, and planning was well under way, we spent hours pouring through our collection of albums and songs to find the song that fit each moment perfectly. We think we did a pretty dang good job, too!
We probably annoyed the heck out of our DJ (Sorry Bruce & Geoff!) with our extremely specific song choices and instructions regarding the songs. In the end, letting all of our friends and family in on the soundtrack that had been playing for so long in our heads was better than we could have ever imagined. When we look back, there isn’t a song that we would change. Each one captured exactly what we were feeling in that moment.
As we talk to everyone who was at the wedding we are always asked about the songs that were played. Because everyone is so interested, we decided we would share with everyone the list of songs that made up the soundtrack to our wedding.
- Entrance of Groomsmen and Bridesmaids
- “Guaranteed” by Eddie Vedder, on the Into The Wild Soundtrack
- Entrance of The Bride
- “This Years Love” by David Grey, on the album White Ladder
- Sand Ceremony
- “Love and Some Verses” by Iron and Wine, on the album Our Endless Numbered Days
- First Kiss/ Processional
- “Innà mér syngur vitleysingur” by Sigur Rós, on the album Med Sud I Eyrum Vid Spilum Endalaust
- Grand Entrance of Wedding Party
- “Paper Planes” by M.I.A., on the album Kala
- Grand Entrance of Josh and Gigi
- “Blessed” by Brett Dennen, on the album Brett Dennen
- Josh & Gigi First Dance
- “Little Trip To Heaven (On The Wings Of Your Love)” by Tom Waits, on the album Closing Time
- Father/Daughter Dance
- “Daughter” by Louden Wainwright III, on the Knocked Up Soundtrack
- Mother/Son Dance
- “My First Child” by Nil Lara, on the album Nil Lara
- Josh and Gigi Exit
- “Say Goodnight and Go” by Imogen Heap on the album Speak For Yourself
Hope to talk to you all soon!
3.10.2009
josh and angelica johnson, checking in!
2.20.2009
thankin' my lucky stars that i've found him...!
JOSHUA, i love you something fierce. the Lord has put you in my life as the wonderful man i get to marry, and i am forever thankful. i can't wait for our life together to begin! let's do this, baby!!!
and to those of you that have kept up with our blog, THANK YOU for making it something important enough to you to check in on every so often. we're honored you care :-) we'll be back with some update posts after our big day and our honeymoon in cancun! stay tuned!
all my love,
ms. seuc
2.16.2009
girls just wanna have fun...!
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my weekend was spent in beautiful wine country--paso robles, california. my maid of honor, dani, lives in paso and organized quite an UNFORGETTABLE weekend! six of us girls trekked up the 5 freeway for 4 hours on an early (& VERY rainy) saturday morning to be greeted by dani at the hotel, with a fully decorated RV, equipped with drivers!! we began our wine tasting at tobin james winery, followed by eberle, robert hall, and j. lohr to top it off! 5 hours and 26 wines later, we headed back to the hotel to "rest"... then got back up and ready for dinner at Level 4, one of paso's nicest dining experiences ;-) the 7 of us pranced out to dinner, which was then followed by some dancing and "strange bachelorette party traditions..." (nothing bad, don't worry), then went back to the hotel for the best slumber party i'd had in years :-) sunday pretty much consisted of a revitalizing breakfast with my fellow early-birds, and a drive down the rainy, wet coast, with a stop at santa barbara's finest mexican restaurant (haha, we went to Left At Albequerque's...).
Thank you to all the girls that partook in the weekend. I appreciate you girls so much, and it was so nice spending 48 hours straight with you all!!
kat and dani on the eberle cave tour.
ryel and i at dinner.
kym and nic at dinner.
2.03.2009
25 random facts (...times 2)
josh
1. I once had a dream that I was went surfing and hung out with the characters from Saved By The Bell. No, Not The College Years. Why would you even think that it would be?
2. I have always wanted to dive in the shark cage with Great Whites. They fascinate me.
3. I would rather scuba dive than snorkel. When I snorkel, I feel like bait floating on top of the water waiting to be eaten. I’ll do it, but I much prefer to scuba dive.
4. The texture of sushi in my mouth makes me want to gag. I have tried a lot, and like the taste of most, but can’t get over the texture. I stick to rice bowls and beer; it’s pretty hard to go wrong there.
5. Given the opportunity to cook and eat at home or go out, I will choose to go out more often than not.
6. I always have music playing. Even if its just in my head.
7. I am extremely particular about iTunes. I get irritated if I don't have the album artwork, or if I am missing songs from an album.
8. I am way too logical for my own good.
9. Doing laundry might be the worst chore ever. It's never done!
10. When I was a kid I wouldn't eat Jell-O because it jiggled. Bill Cosby convinced me it was okay. Now I love Jell-O.
11. My girl, a pepperoni pizza, and a Laker game is about the best day I can have.
12. I used to know how much wood a woodchuck could chuck, but I forgot.
13. Everything I thought mattered most changed when I met my future wife.
14. Tom Waits explained it best when he said, "I like my town with a little drop of poison."
15. I try to learn something from everyone I come into contact with. Even if it's how not to do something.
16. I love to learn, but I dread being taught.
17. Getting a dog taught me more about relationships than I could have ever imagined. Providing 100% for someone was something I didn't understand until then.
18. When I was a kid, I was a ball boy at major tennis tournaments for a few years in a row.
19. I once shook James Worthy's hand. I've never felt so tiny in my whole life.
20. Going through some old boxes a year ago or so, I found a picture of me with Frank Sinatra. I don't remember it at all, but I am glad I have the picture!
21. I can pack a truck like nobody's business. No. I won't help you move.
22. I once drove from Irvine, CA to Visalia, CA in two hours.
23. I wish I knew how to ride a skateboard like they do in the X-Games.
24. I can suspend my fear of heights as soon as I put a pair of climbing shoes on.
25. I desire to know the people I love most more every day.
gigi
1. call me gigi and you'll get one personality out of me. call me angelica and you'll get another. scary, huh?
2. i find capital letters to be a waste of time. yet, punctuation still has a place in my heart!
3. i'd love to meet the person that crossed peanut butter and chocolate. i'd share a reece's cup with them.
4. i miss playing water polo more than i thought i would. it's refreshing to get back in the pool every so often and have it come back to me so quickly--almost like riding a bike.
5. i feel loved everyday.
6. i was once homesick for 3 months. i had a stomach ache those same 3 months. i never associated the two until this week, when that same stomach ache came around--a friendly nudge from my body telling me to ease up on the stress factor.
7. i officially love mustard. it took a conscious effort over a period of 3 months, but it paid off!
8. sugar always beats salt in my book. or...psalt, as some would put it.
9. i rarely like what the rest of the world considers a "good movie". what really gets me excited is a corny romantic comedy or a lame dramedy.
10. today i almost bought something off an infomertial. i dialed the number and everything, then hung up. "hip-hop abs" looked really fun, though!
11. if it comes in black and white, i like it in brown and cream.
12. i am an atrocious singer. i do it anyway, but not proudly.
13. i've mastered the art of interruption and talking over people. i'm willing to take lessons on losing that skill. i know it's bad.
14. i can't stand to see animals get hurt.
15. i have yet to find my passion in life. i think it has something to do with people and relationships, but either God hasn't revealed it to me, or i've been bad at seeing where He's pointed me to.
16. i watched a scary movie a few weeks ago and covered my eyes for a good 15 minutes of it. that trick still seems to work...
17. the only thing i think about these days is the moment i will see my fiance waiting for me at the end of the aisle.
18. my biggest fear is that i will get "taken away" one day. i blame my older brother and sister for planting this fear in my head. "don't do that, gigi, or someone's gonna come take you away." i still don't like to see white vans with no windows driving by. i don't think i'd have the heart to say no to candy, if offered, even at this age!
19. i liked high school more than college.
20. design and construction fascinate me more than i ever thought they would.
21. i have a "toss and turn routine" i go through every night as i'm falling asleep. if i'm not tired, it takes about 10-15 minutes to get through, but if i'm really tired, i can get through it in 2.
22. june is my favorite dog, and my favorite month. although, february will be a close second starting this year.
23. i can always tell who my real friends are. they are the ones that laugh at my dumb jokes, sometimes just because they know me and my kind of humor. they also know i'm not offended by pity-laughs, but rather cherish them just as much as real laughs. thank you guys.
24. i grew up with my parents telling me "no matter what...we'll always love you". i have yet to doubt that statement, and will raise my children with it. nmw...
25. i look forward to mornings. i think they'll get even better when i get to wake up next to the love of my life.